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Friday, January 20, 2006

The thin line that guy didn't know exists...

Okay, this is what I've learn from reading an article (cough*woman'smagazine*cough cough!) and from asking a bunch of female friends that I've known of to clarify it.

Men, for centuries has treated the art of flirtship as part of the ritual in courtship. Men flirt so that in the end that if they succeed, they would found their own mate and ultimately go to the 'next' level of relationship *sex baby!!*. So they would naturally assume a woman who flirts back in any way would mean that the woman is indeed interested in him and he would likely get into her pants her as his soulmate...

But there's a term woman use that most men didn't realize about..


As oppose to men's term of fuckbuddy.. As in a partner 'in crime' that offers pleasure with no strings attached, flirtbuddy is term woman used for someone who they flirts with just for fun. Meaning they have no intention of taking that kind of relationship further and the poor guy would ultimately wasting his time and effort on this particular woman if he thinks that he have any chance with her at all.

Most of the time, female that have committed herself to a relationship would play this kind of dangerous game. Because most of time they flirt with guys that know she have a boyfriend and wouldn't mind about it because naturally to guys, they would end up thinking that she is a perfect candidate for a fuckbuddy. Meaning she have a boyfriend to take care of her while all she want from the guys she flirts with are only pleasure. Half of it are true and the other of it are not as what as those guys think of. She does flirt for pleasure, but not in sex term. So don't mistakenly think that woman thinks like guys do..

keep in mind that
guy's mind... pleasure = sex sex sex, orgasm..

woman's mind... pleasure = cuddling, attention, care, deep-talk, fun, foreplay, the big-O, etc etc.... and .... sex. (if it's last long enough).

So to the guys, please do becareful when you flirt with an attached female colleagues. Don't think that if she flirts back it will mean she will eventually dump her boyfriend to be with you (unless she's really into you and you know it) and be careful not to fall into those traps. Because for all I know, she only treat you as her flirtbuddy and nothing more. She's playing this game because she only want the attention from other men to prove to herself worth and still a desire of all male species beside her boyfriend.


  • If you decide in your mind that pleasure equals the cuddling, foreplay etc etc, then you might have lots of women chasing you.

    My advice to anyone, is get a CD that has some good music you can have sex to (will depend on the person) and use it to time your sex (though you don't have to tell your partner).

    I like to use Pink Floyd's, 'Wish you were here' Album. It's about 45 minutes long, and the way I use it, is you put it on repeat (as you need it to play through twice), the first time through is purely foreplay. Take it slow, keep it all sensual - and most the music has a nice slow pulsing rhythm to it, so you can do it all in time with the music (listen to the album first and get an idea of the different songs, as the rhythm does change).

    Second time through, you can get into more erotic sorts of stuff, but don't lose yourload until the final song ... it has a great pulse to do it to.

    That's my advice anyway ... it makes sex last about 90 minutes ... the women is OVER Satisfied and you get a great reputation.

    That's just the CD of choice for me ... I think if you have a CD that might work, then try it ... remember, slow CD's with a good pulse and nice chill factor would work better for this, but I've heard of other guys using Lenny Kravitz music and stuff ... so, it comes down to choice in the end.

    By Blogger Dabido, at 11:35 AM  

  • ermm.. this post is actually about flirtbuddy so maybe I misdirected you in any way so I'm sorry..

    but that advice is a good one.. I'll take note.. heheh...

    Though I never have 'romantic' sex before... i had drunk sex, lusty kinda rough let's do a quicky sex.. that's it..

    but I'll try that if I ever have those intimate sex... >_<

    By Blogger hteekay, at 12:54 PM  

  • I was just commenting on the specific bit:
    'keep in mind that
    guy's mind... pleasure = sex sex sex, orgasm..

    woman's mind... pleasure = cuddling, attention, care, deep-talk, fun, foreplay, the big-O, etc etc.... and .... sex. (if it's last long enough).'

    I probably should have quoted that bit.

    As for flirt buddies, just flirt and flirt and flirt and you might end up with a F***buddy! ;-)

    I've never had drunk lusty sorts of sex before. (Well, lust is always invovled in sex). Not sure if it's possible, as I don't really get drunk ... I get sick before I get drunk ... but, I get a lot of fun out of getting the girl off ... some guys only care about themselves, so they don't eveer have sex where they try to help the girl ... BUT, maybe a girl readign here will see that you've taken note,and will turn up at your place with their favourite CD. lol

    By Blogger Dabido, at 6:50 PM  

  • seem to know a lot about females...

    *whistles and looks at sky*


    By Anonymous entwined, at 11:12 PM  

  • wah osmeone changed his profile pic./:P

    By Anonymous smashpOp, at 12:04 AM  

  • true...i have flirtbuddies. Lots of them. Especially from girls who know it's 'safe' to flirt with me because I know they're straight.

    it's fun, it's just flirting. i find men don't do this so much, just girls. and lesbians with straight girls more.

    By Blogger lainieyeoh, at 8:38 PM  

  • I'd flirt with you Lainie, but I'm afraid it might turn me into a lesbian ... um ...

    what a strange thing for a man to say! :-)

    By Blogger Dabido, at 5:27 PM  

  • i found out if men do it (including myself) most of the time they really mean it.. but there are times that guys do that to boost his ego...

    By Blogger hteekay, at 10:22 AM  

  • Yeah, gotta be careful, especially when dealing with young Korean women... ;)

    They can suck you dry, and you get nothing in the end. That's just how the dating/flirting game goes in Korea. :P

    By Blogger Kurios1978, at 2:33 PM  

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